Creating a Happy, Colorful, Handmade Home & life on the shores of lake superior

February 25, 2015

Hello Again.

Hello again.  Thank you so much for all of your kind and thoughtful emails and comments (both here and on Instagram) about the passing of a family member.  To those who expressed concern for my family, I wanted you to know that they're doing well.  Sad, of course, but figuring out how to move forward.  I wasn't sure whether it would be appropriate/necessary to write about my family's loss in more detail on the blog.  I felt uncomfortable writing a deeply personal story that really isn't all mine to tell.  But it seemed heartless to jump from "a relative died" to "do you think subway tile is too predictable a choice for the bathroom reno?" 

I asked some of my family members what they thought and they said to keep on truckin'; to just return to my regular posts because what I had written was sufficient.  So that's what I will do.

 
Tomorrow's post is in queue.  I'll be switching up my posting schedule a bit moving forward.  I started slipping into random posting mode and I'm trying to right the ship.  I am now going to post every Tuesday and Thursday, with extra posts (like Etsy shop updates or random musings) slotted in, every now and then, on Mondays, Wednesdays or Fridays.  This will give me a combination of the structure and randomness I crave in equal parts.   
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  1. welcome back!!! keep on truckin' sounds likes great advice, and a creative outlet is always helpful when you're sad. :)

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    1. thanks :) it's true! I've had posts and ideas piling up in my brain. I really missed writing!

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    2. Yes! Very glad you're back. This is your work, so you shouldn't have to combine your personal life...
      I have to tell you that I think of you every time I see a grouping with anything BLUE.. You are becoming embedded in my brain. kiddo... :)

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    3. Thanks :)

      It's good to BE back. It's difficult because so much of what I write is my personal life - I've shared info about our finances, a peek into (almost) all of our rooms, the process for buying/selling our homes. But this felt a bit too personal - and because it wasn't about me, it didn't feel right to share. I keep my family off the blog, for the most part, not because they've asked me to, but because I wouldn't want them to write about me. I'm happy everyone is okay with me not saying more. I hate to sound cryptic or vague, but it just feels right to leave it as I did. Plus, this is supposed to be a happy place!

      Haha, so happy I make it into your thoughts! It's part of my plan for global domination. Step One...

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  2. My very deepest condolences on your loss. I'm glad you're making it through, and know how impossible that can feel after losing family.

    All the very best, and glad you're coming back. :)

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    1. Thank you. It's weird because sometimes I forget. I go about my day and everything feels totally normal. And then I remember. It's a process. But I am more removed than other relatives, for whom it is more difficult to move on. Trying my best to be there for them and be a happy distraction!

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  3. So sorry to hear of your loss, you owe your readers nothing more than what you've said.

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    1. Thank you. I owe you all the world! I am so appreciative that I've had this creative space to get me through a lot of stressful times over the years. Writing funny little posts and sharing pictures can be very relaxing, and I'm so thankful there are people on the other end. Folks who say hi, share their advice and opinions, and their own posts and pictures. I get emails everyday from readers who share photos or links they think I might like. It's really, really nice. So I feel like I owe everyone a lot. I try to be honest and open, so at first I wanted to explain everything about this. I'm so relieved that it's okay that I don't share more. Part of me wants to, but part of me knows it's not right.

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  4. Hi, Tanya. I've thought of you often lately. Having been through a couple of experiences where people were way, way too inquisitive about personal details, I just want to say how much I support your choice not to let your blog become a glass-sided box for your life. True, we become attached to your voice and your discoveries out here. But "in there" is *your* space and your family's, and anyone who thinks they have a right to violate that boundary just isn't worth worrying about. Take good care of yourself and those you love, m'dear!

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    1. That must be so uncomfortable, to have people prying! Everyone here has been nothing but sympathetic and understanding. I am very, very lucky to have such fabulous people read my blog. It is a tough balance because I want to keep things light and happy, but that's not always real life. I don't want to contribute to narratives that portray life as all about cupcakes and shiny floors. I've shared some ups and downs on the blog, but I've tried to maintain a balance of private/public, upbeat/honest - but I have to work on it everyday. A lot of our life stays off the blog, but I wish there was a manual to help me decide what! Thanks so much for your care and concern. It's been really nice having your support all of these years (esp. doing my research), and to hear bits of your life too. So thanks :)

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  5. Hi Tanya, nice to see you feeling up to posting again. Only as much information as you're comfortable sharing is appropriate because this is deeply personal. Glad to see you back.

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  6. The perfect amount to share is what feels right to you - and what you shared was perfect. Your readers that have grown to love your blog, and you, will feel the same amount of love and compassion and hope for healing for you no matter how much or how little you want to share and anyone prying for more info isn't in the respect and love for you camp. I rarely comment, but I have enjoyed your writing and brilliant creativity (and love of turquoise!) for a long time and just wanted to give you a virtual hug (thats not too weird I hope?) and say it is good to see you back, and I hope the good memories and love you share help you and your family heal from your loss. Take Care.

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    1. Thank you Heidi. I really appreciate your comment and your kind words. What you wrote was very comforting, so thank you. I didn't expect anyone to pry - and no one has, because you are all fabulous - but I also didn't want anyone to feel like they weren't important or special enough to be in the loop. I spend so much time connecting with everyone here, I didn't want anyone to feel like that hasn't or isn't important to me. I've actually said very little about it to my non-blog friends, too. A virtual hug is definitely not weird - it's very nice, actually. I'm also very glad to hear you enjoy the blog (and turquoise, which means you're automatically awesome in my books).

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  7. Once again I'm late to the blog. I've missed you but I'm glad to see that you're moving forward.

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    1. Hi Ann! I'm glad too. There's comfort in picking up where we left off.

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